Wulan is confused. Because marriage just to stay one week longer. The whole preparation has been done, ranging from care of a marriage license, knick-knacks until the wedding. But a lump in mind Wulan. There is a sense of worry that he did not know the source. Various input from families on procedures and equipment wedding, which is different from wanting too often create tension Wulan ride. Not to mention, his knowledge of the world marriage is still very limited at all, makes it even more nervous facing marriage.
Another with Narti. After being single for so long, finally came the prince to propose to her. Actually Narti've read many books about marriage. It also has many friends who are married and have children also made it understood the world of marriage and knick-perniknya. But there was something that worried him, could he be a good wife and mother for his family. Is he able to share everything with her husband one day, whereas now he was used independently. Take care of everything themselves. Suddenly she was so afraid of the wedding is getting closer.
Many people are confused when faced with marriage. There are busy preparing for marriage and knick-knacks wedding, but forgot to prepare science, mental and spiritual in living. Although everyone knows that marriage is worship, to fulfill half of religion, but because of busy preparation for marriage and party supplies often make the nuances of worship in a memorable wedding.
There are some preparations that need to be addressed before the wedding, which is the science of marriage preparation, mental preparation / psychological in the face of marriage, ruhiyyah preparations before the wedding as well as physical preparation before marriage.
1. Studies on marriage preparation
Things to prepare is to clarify the vision of marriage. For what we are married. Clear vision and equally between husband and wife, God willing will sustain a marriage.
Many people who marry only for love, or follow the tradition of the community. It could also be due to shame because it was old enough but still not as well to the aisle. Reasons such as these have no roots are apparent. Can also become very brittle when it entered the ark of household, and finally destroyed when the storm comes crashing home.
As a Muslim who has lived a clear reference, of course we know that marriage is for worship. Vision of marriage in Islam is to draw a lot of reward through the activity of menage. Distance himself and family from the flames of hell, and finally trying to achieve happiness in the world and the Hereafter. If someone is thinking about a vision like this, God willing the days that passes after marriage will try to face in accordance with the laws of Islam.
Science else you should know is about the marriage laws. As the pillar of marriage, ie the bride and groom, two witnesses, guardians of the women and consent granted. When you have fulfilled all of them, God willing, be a valid religious marriage.
Then the obligation to give dowry as requested by the female. Then the problem walimatul ursy (wedding). Traditions of the area is not a mandatory thing to do. Even as much as possible to avoid a conflict with the traditions of the Islamic Aqeedah. Then also simplifies the whole process of marriage is more mainstream. Also simplify the wedding, not extravagance better in the view of Islam.
2. Preparation of mental / psychological facing marriage.
Marriage is a new life very much different from previous eras. In the marriage of two distinct persons gathered from families who have different habits. In it open all the properties of their respective original. Prepare yourself to face any shortage of charitable partner is absolutely necessary. Likewise, ways of communicating our thoughts and feelings with a good partner is also worth noting, that negative emotions do not paint our homes.
In marriage also needed a sense of responsibility to fulfill the rights and obligations of each. So that each family member not only demand their rights, but try to first meet its obligations.
Marriage is a manifestation of a team of our lives to achieve happiness in the world and the hereafter. Therefore, cooperation, mutual support in all things indispensable. Included in the education of children. Marriage is also a means to continuously learn about life. When entering the world of marriage a person learns to be a part of team life. When a childless person learns to educate children in a good way. Not infrequently parents also need to force yourself to change bad habits in order not to be imitated by children. When the children before the adult parents learn to make their children as friends, as part of the team's active life moving wheel of life, and so on.
3. Preparation Ruhiyyah / spiritual.
Married worship, therefore the entire process through which the marriage must be with the feel of worship. Process before getting married until the marriage itself as well after getting married should not be far away from the nuances of servitude to God. Before marriage increase the quality of self and the quality of worship is absolutely necessary. Pray to God to get a sholih husband and children who will be conditioning of the eye.
Associating with people who can keep the deen sholih we also need to be done. Read books about the virtues of marriage also needs to be done to strengthen our faith in marriage.
When a proposal comes, worship increasingly tightened. Continue to ask God to get the best as our partner. Currently, we also need to cleanse the liver so that the intention of worship in this marriage did not deviate. Also maintain the sanctity of our relationship with future husband until the arrival time of marriage is necessary, in order not to fall into the temptation of Satan.The days between the proposed and the wedding should be shortened to clean intentions and human relations can be maintained.
4. Physical Preparation
The latter is no less important dalah our body prepares to enter the world of weddings. Knowing the woman's reproductive organs and the way it works is very important to us.
Checking the health of reproductive organs is also important to avoid things that are unwanted after marriage.In addition, we need to know about healthy sex. Many ornag married but do not know how to have sex with a healthy and enjoyable for each pair.This is important because it is part of the key to happiness in marriage.
Another with Narti. After being single for so long, finally came the prince to propose to her. Actually Narti've read many books about marriage. It also has many friends who are married and have children also made it understood the world of marriage and knick-perniknya. But there was something that worried him, could he be a good wife and mother for his family. Is he able to share everything with her husband one day, whereas now he was used independently. Take care of everything themselves. Suddenly she was so afraid of the wedding is getting closer.
Many people are confused when faced with marriage. There are busy preparing for marriage and knick-knacks wedding, but forgot to prepare science, mental and spiritual in living. Although everyone knows that marriage is worship, to fulfill half of religion, but because of busy preparation for marriage and party supplies often make the nuances of worship in a memorable wedding.
There are some preparations that need to be addressed before the wedding, which is the science of marriage preparation, mental preparation / psychological in the face of marriage, ruhiyyah preparations before the wedding as well as physical preparation before marriage.
1. Studies on marriage preparation
Things to prepare is to clarify the vision of marriage. For what we are married. Clear vision and equally between husband and wife, God willing will sustain a marriage.
Many people who marry only for love, or follow the tradition of the community. It could also be due to shame because it was old enough but still not as well to the aisle. Reasons such as these have no roots are apparent. Can also become very brittle when it entered the ark of household, and finally destroyed when the storm comes crashing home.
As a Muslim who has lived a clear reference, of course we know that marriage is for worship. Vision of marriage in Islam is to draw a lot of reward through the activity of menage. Distance himself and family from the flames of hell, and finally trying to achieve happiness in the world and the Hereafter. If someone is thinking about a vision like this, God willing the days that passes after marriage will try to face in accordance with the laws of Islam.
Science else you should know is about the marriage laws. As the pillar of marriage, ie the bride and groom, two witnesses, guardians of the women and consent granted. When you have fulfilled all of them, God willing, be a valid religious marriage.
Then the obligation to give dowry as requested by the female. Then the problem walimatul ursy (wedding). Traditions of the area is not a mandatory thing to do. Even as much as possible to avoid a conflict with the traditions of the Islamic Aqeedah. Then also simplifies the whole process of marriage is more mainstream. Also simplify the wedding, not extravagance better in the view of Islam.
2. Preparation of mental / psychological facing marriage.
Marriage is a new life very much different from previous eras. In the marriage of two distinct persons gathered from families who have different habits. In it open all the properties of their respective original. Prepare yourself to face any shortage of charitable partner is absolutely necessary. Likewise, ways of communicating our thoughts and feelings with a good partner is also worth noting, that negative emotions do not paint our homes.
In marriage also needed a sense of responsibility to fulfill the rights and obligations of each. So that each family member not only demand their rights, but try to first meet its obligations.
Marriage is a manifestation of a team of our lives to achieve happiness in the world and the hereafter. Therefore, cooperation, mutual support in all things indispensable. Included in the education of children. Marriage is also a means to continuously learn about life. When entering the world of marriage a person learns to be a part of team life. When a childless person learns to educate children in a good way. Not infrequently parents also need to force yourself to change bad habits in order not to be imitated by children. When the children before the adult parents learn to make their children as friends, as part of the team's active life moving wheel of life, and so on.
3. Preparation Ruhiyyah / spiritual.
Married worship, therefore the entire process through which the marriage must be with the feel of worship. Process before getting married until the marriage itself as well after getting married should not be far away from the nuances of servitude to God. Before marriage increase the quality of self and the quality of worship is absolutely necessary. Pray to God to get a sholih husband and children who will be conditioning of the eye.
Associating with people who can keep the deen sholih we also need to be done. Read books about the virtues of marriage also needs to be done to strengthen our faith in marriage.
When a proposal comes, worship increasingly tightened. Continue to ask God to get the best as our partner. Currently, we also need to cleanse the liver so that the intention of worship in this marriage did not deviate. Also maintain the sanctity of our relationship with future husband until the arrival time of marriage is necessary, in order not to fall into the temptation of Satan.The days between the proposed and the wedding should be shortened to clean intentions and human relations can be maintained.
4. Physical Preparation
The latter is no less important dalah our body prepares to enter the world of weddings. Knowing the woman's reproductive organs and the way it works is very important to us.
Checking the health of reproductive organs is also important to avoid things that are unwanted after marriage.In addition, we need to know about healthy sex. Many ornag married but do not know how to have sex with a healthy and enjoyable for each pair.This is important because it is part of the key to happiness in marriage.
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